Woman Urged to Ban Family From Wedding for Betting on When Fiancé Dumps Her

The internet has urged a bride-to-be to uninvite her family from her wedding as they place bets on when her fiancé will regret marrying her.

Published on Reddit‘sr/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman under the anonymous username u/effie389 shared her story in order to get the opinions of the “AITA” community. The viral post has over 5,000 upvotes and 700 comments. Read the full post here.

Many couples are set to marry this year. According to a survey done by Wedding Market Research, roughly 2.5 million couples are set to wed this year and spend approximately $24,300 for their special day.

In a post submitted to Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum, a bride-to-be is threatening to cancel her wedding after finding out that her family has been making bets on how long it would take her husband to leave her. Ljupco/iStock / Getty Images Plus

The original poster (OP) began her story by saying that she is supposed to be getting married at the end of the month but is considering canceling it and having a courthouse wedding instead. This reason came to be when the OP’s cousin told her that her family has been placing bets on how long it will take her fiancé to realize he isn’t going to get “the good little wife” he is expecting and will end up regretting marrying her.

She wrote, “When I confronted them, they said it was just a harmless joke and that I didn’t have the personality to be a submissive housewife which a man like my fiancé would obviously want. about making sure my fiancé didn’t realise until after the wedding while I was confronting them.”

“I was already upset but her joke just made it 10x worse and I told everybody I was going to cancel the wedding. My family told me I couldn’t do that because people would talk and my future in-laws wouldn’t be happy about it but I told them I didn’t care and they could tell everybody why I never had a wedding ceremony,” she continued.

The OP wrote that her family told her she would regret canceling the wedding and would end up embarrassing her and her family. However, she said she wasn’t backing down.

The Reddit user explained in various comments that her fiancé knows about the joke and says that it’s her choice whether she cancels the wedding or not.

Newsweek reached out to u/effie389 for comment.

Is It Impolite to Disinvite People From Your Wedding?

According to The Knot, it isn’t polite to disinvite someone from a wedding after they received their save-the-date card as it is considered a “promise” that they should be expecting an official wedding invitation in the mail.

But what happens when a bride or groom has an argument with one of their guests? Would it be worth it to uninvite them to the wedding? Per brideandgroomdirect.co.uk, if you get into an argument with a guest, try to resolve the problem before cutting them from the wedding guest list. If possible, sit down with them and talk through the issue to find an agreement that’s right for both of you.

Redditor Reactions

Reddit users flood the comment section to share their thoughts.

“[Not the a**hole]- but have your wedding just uninvite your family,” u/BattleKitten17 wrote, receiving the top comment with over 14,000 upvotes.

U/throwthewholepieaway replied, “Her family is literally betting against her lasting marriage, screw them. If she still wants to have a wedding, she should definitely still have it and just uninvite everyone in on the bet. Also she said hubby doesn’t care either way as long as they get married.”

“[Not the a**hole] But why are you having the wedding in the first place? If it’s for you, then why not just tell your family they are no longer welcome? (And otherwise cut them out of your life,” u/numtini said.

U/7dayweekendgirl shared her story to the OP, “[Not the a**hole]. When I was 46, I married my husband who was 33. Both sides of the family and all my co-workers joked that he would regret marrying an older woman, we wouldn’t last, and I heard every cougar joke. We said, screw them and got married at town hall without telling anyone. We’ve been married for 15 years.”

“Don’t get married to save face. You don’t have to have a big event and you can simply elope and not invite anyone,” u/cassowary32 commented.

Weddings often don’t go as planned, sometimes causing major rifts in relationships.

One bride and her family were upset when the groom and the groom’s family “upstaged” them at what was supposed to be a black-tie wedding.

One new wife brought both her children to her wedding at the end, but nobody, including her parents or her husband’s parents, offered any help with the babies, and she ended up taking care of them all night, without having the chance to dance or enjoy the night. He said it was her fault.

Another bride is being slammed online for her reaction to her partner singing a song to her at their reception, declaring he took the “spotlight to enforce” his “ethnicity,” shocking many with her comment.

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